I Hope This Isn’t Us….
Today we took the kids to the mall to let Sweet Pea play at the play place. There is a Starbucks at the mall and my sweet husband decided to get us drinks with some of his birthday money.
The guy taking our order asked for a name so we said “Charles”. He casually mentioned that his first name was also Charles, but he went by his middle name. This led to a discussion about how he was named after his dad. He went on to tell us that he was glad he went by his middle name because he doesn’t like his father. The whole conversation made me really sad.
I think about when Sweet Pea and Peanut are older and move out and I hope and pray that they are never to the point where they will openly tell strangers that they hate us. It has caused me to really think about how thankful I am I have a good relationship with my parents and how I can have a good relationship with my kids. Lots to think about….
I worry about this a lot, too. I have a very close relationship with my parents, but not with everyone in my family. It’s all really complicated, and I don’t know what anyone can do to ensure a happy family in the future. I try, though, and like you I’m grateful for what’s good.
I don’t think that will ever happen. In fact I think you guys will be just as close as you and your parents. But I will say honestly that they will probably go through stages… They will love you always until they hit their teens, they will be a typical teenager, and when they go off to college and are no longer under your wing, they will wish with all their might they were. I’ve noticed ever since I’m not longer dependent on my parents 100%, that I miss them terribly. I’m also thankful for the time I have to spend with them when we are together.
that IS so sad. I hope my kids will want to be around us when theyre grown.